And What to Talk About Instead.

Politics. Religion. Dieting.  These are some topics of conversation that should be banned from your Thanksgiving table. But Thanksgiving may bring an opportunity to discuss other crucial topics while you are with your family.

If you have young children, defined here as those under 18, a conversation you must have is who will take care of them should something happen to you, their parents. Will it be the grandparents? A trusted aunt or uncle? A cousin or maybe a friend?

This is called “naming a guardian.” It’s usually part of your Estate Plan, but can be established as a separately if you don’t yet have your other documents in place. Recent popular films like “Gifted” and the Oscar-winning “Manchester by the Sea” bring this issue to light in new ways. They also may provide great stepping-off points for the conversation.

In both films, it’s the uncle, who happens also to be single, who is raising their sibling’s child. There is no law that says a single person cannot be a guardian, so don’t limit yourself to married family members.  

Some of these conversations should be had in private. Others may be more suited for an open family discussion, depending on who is at your Thanksgiving table. Be prepared, however, for unexpected reactions. Some people are honored to be asked to be a guardian. Some are, well, not. Sometimes feelings get hurt. If you ask one aunt but not the other, will she be upset? Remember that your goal is to do what’s best for your children.

Either way, these issues are best discussed with your trusted attorney. If you would like to find out more about how we can help, please call us today or ask us a question below!